A first date is a scary experience and this was no exception for Michelle Thomas, who went on a date with a man known only as Simon who she met on Tinder. The date went well and although Michelle said that she didn’t really find him attractive and wasn’t particularly bothered about seeing him again any chances of a second date went straight out the window after the message he sent her following their meet.
The night after their Tinder date, Michelle received this 397 word message from Simon who has only described by Michelle as in his 40’s and works for the NHS. The message which goes into significant detail about his thought process essentially boils down to, their relationship could never work because she was too fat to give him an erection.
Here is the message:
“Hey Michelle, sorry been super busy at work today hun.
Thanks for a wonderful evening last night. I really enjoyed your company and actually adore you. You’re cheeky and funny and just the sort of girl I would love to go out with if only my body and mind would let me. But I fear it won’t.
I’m not going to bull***t you… I f***ing adore you Michelle and I think you’re the prettiest looking girl I’ve ever met. But my mind gets turned on my someone slimmer.
Shallow? It’s not meant to be. It’s the same reaction you get when you read a great author or see an amazing image, or listen to a piece of music you love, it has that instant reaction in you that makes you crave more.
So whilst I am hugely turned on by your mind, your face, your personality (and God…I really, really am), I can’t say the same about your figure. So I can sit there and flirt and have the most incredibly fun evening, but I have this awful feeling that when we got undressed my body would let me down. I don’t want that to happen baby. I don’t want to be lying there next to you, and you asking me why I’m not hard.
There are certain triggers that fire my imagination into life and your wit and intelligence are the beginning of that process which would inevitably end up in the bedroom. With just one result….
I’m so disappointed in myself Michelle because I’ve genuinely not felt this way about anyone in ages, but I’m trying to be honest with you without sounding like a total knobhead.
We could be amazing friends, we could flirt and joke and adore each other and…. f*** me… I would marry you like a shot if you were a slip of a girl because what you have in that mind of yours is utterly unique, and I really really love it.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that I’m trying to avoid bigger pain in the future by telling you now so we don’t have to go through that embarrassment. I’m a man… With all the red hot lusts of a man and all the failings of a man and I’m sure of my own body and its needs.
Please try and forgive me. I adore you xx”
After receiving the message, Ms Thomas was understandably devastated and inconsolable.
“I was on another date when I received that message. (I got my phone out to check messages when my date was in the loo.) I was just shocked and burst into tears.”
“I think the only reason for sending the message is to hurt and to wound somebody.”
“It’s every woman’s worst nightmare. It’s this deep rooted thought that you have as a teenager and never really goes away that no matter how fun or clever you are, if you are a little bit overweight then nothing else matters to men.”
Click next to see Michelle’s response!